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Been in my mind lately
Overworking, compensating, forgetting the individual I once was trying to juggle it all in the midst of a pandemic.
Feeling guilty on days off, society convinces me I need to stay busy.
Ignore their opinions, you need self-love as a busy mother.
How can you cater to the world if you’re burnt out?
Take care of yourself first and foremost.
The chaotic world that is motherhood. There’s no guide, no one size fits all approach. We vary in our techniques, feel guilty if we stray too far away and have an enormous pressure to be perfect. Society has convinced us we need to be superwomen. To juggle multiple responsibilities and do it all with a smile.
To work, have a happy home and some sort of social life, through it all, we forget about ourselves. This is a reminder to slow down, make yourself a priority. I’m sharing six ways to practice self-love as a busy mother.
Stop comparing yourself to other mothers
I’ve said it before, let me reiterate it again. We vary in our parenting techniques, what works for one mother, may not work for another. Comparison will only feed our negativity and the feeling of not being enough. When you have those moments, take a step back, breathe and ask yourself what inspires you about this person? Kick the negativity to the side and make a new connection. If it’s online, send a quick message, if it’s in person, strike up a conversation. The interaction will be appreciated, especially this year where human connection is being craved.
Allow yourself rest
Don’t let the guilt take away from your scheduled rest time, you deserve it. Now figure out how you want to spend it. What do you define as rest? Some mothers enjoy a warm cup of tea, a cozy blanket and either a good book or T.V series. Others may prefer a mini pamper session that includes facials, hair masks, yoga and journaling. Self-love comes in different shapes and sizes, adopt what works for you. Make the most of your rest by catering to the mind, body and soul. Investing in yourself will ease your stress and boost your confidence.
Workout regularly
Get moving, earn that daily shower. It doesn’t have to be an intense workout. The aim is to get the body moving for fifteen minutes, even as a busy mother, you got this. Do what you enjoy, personally I like to mix things up. Some days it’s dance workout, led by Keaira LeShae, other days it’s a guided yoga session. Listen to what your body needs and don’t forget to stay hydrated.
Nourish the soul
Self-love means reenergizing the mind, body and soul. As Big Sean would say ZTFO (Zen the f out). The soul requires a state of calm and inner peace. Try adding meditation, pray, organizing your space or connecting with loved ones. Whether you’re connecting to yourself, God or others, you’re feeding the soul positive energy. Practicing mindfulness will infuse peace into your daily routine.
Be present & engaged
In a connected age, we can easily become dedicated by notifications, e-mails, news . Take a moment to yourself. Have a no screens before bed rule, no phones at dinner or dedicate no social media days. Self-love is being present and engaged in every moment.
Date & Girl’s Nights
Parenthood can consume your life if you allow it. Remember to schedule monthly date nights and girl’s nights. Reconnect with your partner through restaurant dates, cute strolls, movie evenings or even theme nights. Your girls will always be cheering you on, have a catchup over coffee or something a bit stronger. Game’s night, Netflix and chill, cocktails and dancing, there’s so many possibilities. There are no excuses, make a plan.
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