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Pregnant in a Pandemic - Talesa Webber


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2020 was supposed to be a fresh start for me. Not only am I turning 30 but i'm also PREGNANT which is something that my husband and I have been working on for a while. Never in a million years would I have imagined that by the time I finally got pregnant it would be smack dab in the middle of a national crisis.


What was supposed to be the happiest time of my life is now filled with anxiety and uncertainty. I’ve already had to cancel my babymoon and now with all my free time during quarantine I can’t help but think about all the other things I might have to miss out on. Will I get to have my baby shower? Will I get to do my maternity photoshoot? These might seem like trivial and selfish things for me to think about at this time; especially when my health and the safety of my unborn child are at risk, however; when you’ve waited as long as I have, the desire to experience all the joys and celebration of welcoming your first child just doesn’t disappear.


The most heartbreaking part of this whole ordeal is the fact that my husband can’t come to any of my appointments as of right now. When my doctor called to confirm my appointment and informed me that my husband couldn’t come, I was absolutely crushed. Then there’s the idea that my husband may not be able to be in the delivery room. Over the past few days I have been reading articles and stories about women having to give birth alone. No doula, no family, no partner, nothing. How can you deny anyone support in a time like this? I understand the severity of the situation, but forcing someone to give birth alone only causes unnecessary stress and trauma. I can’t even begin to express the anxiety that I feel thinking about possibly giving birth alone and honestly I WILL NOT DO IT.


As I move into the end of my second trimester; I want to share some tips of how i’ve been keeping sane through this stressful time:


  1. Limit your news intake. I’ve begun limiting the amounts of covid-19 alerts that I’ve been receiving on my phone because it was starting to become too much.

  2. Talk your anxieties out with someone. Your partner, a friend, family, a therapist. Don’t keep those feelings bottled inside; it's not good for you or your baby.

  3. Find something productive to do with your time. Yes my husband and I had to cancel our babymoon and at first we were bummed but now we’re going to use that time to get our baby nook set up. We’ve ordered his crib and decor and we’re going to make the most of our time together.

  4. Take this time to explore your options. I’ve been looking into doulas and home births, trying to find a suitable backup plan in the event that July rolls around and this pandemic hasn’t cleared up.

  5. Worried about missing out on going to lamaze/ birthing/ breast-feeding classes? Make YouTube your best friend. There are so many resources that I’ve found through a simple search.

  6. Stressed about having to cancel your baby shower? Consider a virtual baby shower. Get yourself dressed up, decorate your home, share your registry with family and friends so they can mail your presents to your house and provide them with a link to join in on the fun. You can still play games, play music and open all your gifts surrounded by the people that you love.

  7. Work in some time to relax. Turn the tv off, put the phone down. Just zone out and forget about everything that’s around you. Light some candles, play some music, take a nap. Whatever helps you feel the most at ease in times like these, JUST DO IT.


Hang in there preggo mamas! We’re all in this together and when the storm passes and life starts to get back to normal, you’ll be holding onto your sweet baby and nothing else will matter.


 
 
 

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